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When i was on Pof loads(absolutely LOADS) of guys 40+ seemed to be looking for women 15-20 years younger than them.
What's that all about.............???

It was really the one & only "beef" i ever had with the guys there coz i couldnt get my head around it?
Is it because decades ago when they were in their 20's they were dating girls in their 20's and they somehow think they can still get those younger girls? (That THEY havent aged..??)
Me? Im in my 40's and couldnt imagine dating a guy in his 20's.
In fact,its nearly got the eeww factor for *me*.
There's a whole generation or two between you so outside of the bedroom,what's the attraction?
Hehehe........please feel free to say it like it is,fellow Posters.
I'll be back again later today and hope there's some responses...

Roxy127 wrote:When i was on Pof loads(absolutely LOADS) of guys 40+ seemed to be looking for women 15-20 years younger than them.
What's that all about.............???

Younger women are less droopy.

Roxy127 wrote:When i was on Pof loads(absolutely LOADS) of guys 40+ seemed to be looking for women 15-20 years younger than them.

No offense, but obviously then you must have seen the many threads and responses addressing this female concern. No?

I read somewhere that we start back dating where we left off. So if we marry at 20 something, then divorce 20 years later, we pick up where we left off & date the 20 year olds. Makes sense in a way.

I own gyms (exercise centers) There is a small group that think they are meat markets. The biggest headache I have is dealing with the old ones trying to pick up the young ones. When I bring it to the guys attention they immediately back off, but not the friggin cougars. The old ladies looking for young men are relentless, they just won't stop! When they zoom in on their target it's like watching an episode of Wild Kingdom. They truly stalk them. They make horrible crude, extremely suggestive remarks to the guys. They go out of their way to meet the young guys & I mean to the extreme. They infiltrate group sessions where the young guys are, they bug the sheat out of management for info on the young guys, they even offer money to find out the guys name or tele number. They ask management to call them when the young guy schedules an appointment or when he is at the gym.
We always know which young guy slept with a cougar & she's got her claws in him. He'll come in with brand new high dollar work out clothes. She'll come in a few minutes later to make sure no other old lady looks at him. Within a few months it'll be over & the guy will disappear for a few weeks. When they are having a hard time getting rid of the cougar, the guys call & see who is in the gym. Sometimes they get brave enough, or maybe scared enough, to just ask if so & so is there. The cougar will come in numerous times a day looking for him & always asks if so & so has come in yet, they leave him messages & again, they try to bribe the staff with money to find out what they can about him. Too many cat fights have occurred because of cougars, but I have never had to deal with old farts fighting over a young woman.
New members, especially the cougars, always ask what time of day the young hotties come in. I just roll my eyes & watch the games begin

levi501s wrote:No offense, but obviously then you must have seen the many threads and responses addressing this female concern. No?

Thats ok,levi,no offence taken but i wanted to see what the guys HERE have to say,too,and going by Restless' comment,you must be all pretty well the same,lol!!

As for the Cougars(and their behaviour)Dot mentioned......my God,how absolutely cringe worthy......

I agree with what Dotcom said in her first sentence.After the initail stages of finding out who you are now and who your still able to attract,and for what purpose,many continue to delude themselves in an unhelpful manor if they really are hoping to find "the one" because they continue to seek the unobtainable for a LTR.
It is the deluded who just constantly punch above there weight.
Part of that is that they retain unrealistic expectations for themselves even though time is ticking.
Of course there are those who know they do not want any commitment and would rather have the occassional success with someone that they have little chance of going any distance with.

Then there are those who never seem to be in any real committed relationship for years but who date often who are critical of those who have made real attempts at a number of relationships and failed!

Stress Free wrote:many continue to delude themselves in an unhelpful manor if they really are hoping to find "the one" because they continue to seek the unobtainable for a LTR.

Thanks Col............that just about sums it up,doesn't it?
Wonder when they put down their Magic Mirror and see the 47 yr old guy staring back.....?

Im sure there were plenty of Cougars looking to date younger men,ie: "Manic Melanie" was one.
But,i work with lots of younger guys and we all get on tremendously well but the idea of being physically involved with any of them is just laughable and beyond the pale.
Hehe..........thanks for the responses so far......

I read somewhere that we start back dating where we left off. So if we marry at 20 something, then divorce 20 years later, we pick up where we left off & date the 20 year olds. Makes sense in a way.

I got married at 19 got divorced when I was 23..Spend the next 15 years or so bringing the children up by myself. Ex hubby was never heard off again until 15 years later, when he decided he wanted to know the children only to let them down again big time, and not heard off since..anyhow that's a different story..
What I am trying to get at is my children are 18, 20 and 22... and to even consider going out with someone the same age make me shudder..

Saying this I did go out with a 30 year old not long ago and it did work because we was on the same page..be distance was too great so we decided to end it, although we are always on the phone chatting like old buddies..

My longest relationship of 8 years was with a guy who was 15 years my senior, this worked too because we was on the same page at the time..but after some years the age gap widened and all the things I wanted to do, he had already done, and wanted a 'quiet' life..So we parted as friends..We still chat on a weekly basis and have a giggle at our failed relationships and encounters...

After we split I decided to give the whole Internet dating lark a go..I was amazed with how many 19-23 year old guys wanting to see a 'mature lady' ..Makes me cringe thinking about it ..
Also I have had men of 60 years old puffing out their chests trying to give it a bash...
I have had men who are the same age as me asking me to 'save' them from the horrid older ladies of the site, that have stalked them
This one guy I chatted to, told me when meeting this one lady who said she was a certain age, ended up 10 years older than she said.. On entering her house for coffee, she presented him with a coffee mug with his name on it, she had specially bought that day..she also had downloaded his picture off the site and put it a frame.. There are certainly some scary Mary types out there..

I have been out with friends and seen 40-50 somethings men and women hitting on young lad and girls..(Do these people even know how ridiculous they look?) I must admit though, through all my 'people watching' I think the older women are the scariest!..
The one night me and my sons went out for a drink, (New years eve) we ended up with about 15 members of the family hitting broad st in Birmingham.. So we go to this club and this 50 year old woman was hitting on my son..who was 19 years old at the time..He looked at me across the room with pleading 'help me mom' eyes.. So I go over and told her for health reasons she should feck off!.. So what does she say?.. 'I was here first, find yourself your own man!'
'Excuse me, but that is my son!!'
'Oh sorry, how lovely to meet you' thrusting her hand out to me..
'Which part of feck off did you not understand?' I ask..
She left the club..
So then I have this young lad of about 20 something saying 'woo I love domineering women, can I buy you a drink?'
At that point both of my sons shout at him
'PISS OFF SHES OUR MOM!'

So the conclusion to this story?.. young and old..men and women..all the same, just work in different ways to gain their trophy of another notch on the bedpost...

Roxy127 wrote:When i was on Pof loads(absolutely LOADS) of guys 40+ seemed to be looking for women 15-20 years younger than them.
What's that all about.............???

It was really the one & only "beef" i ever had with the guys there coz i couldnt get my head around it?

So, obviously you're unaware of "cougars", and think only males desire a younger mate...

Me? Im in my 40's and couldnt imagine dating a guy in his 20's.

A cougar doesn't have this issue.

In fact,its nearly got the eeww factor for *me*.
There's a whole generation or two between you so outside of the bedroom,what's the attraction?

I think you assume that it's necessary for two people to have much in common outside of the bedroom, in order to have a healthy relationship. Which is the furthest thing from the truth.

Hehehe........please feel free to say it like it is,fellow Posters.

Sure.
It's not that hard to figure out.
For some people, physical attractiveness ranks higher than it does for other people.

I'm one of those people.
I have to find a woman very physically appealing, or there's no chance of anything other than a friendship ever happening.
It's just the way I'm wired. And that will never change.

Roxy...Manic Melanie I was going to mention her, but decided not to. She sure did talk about the younger guys & going to the gym too! hmmmm?