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By Marcy Barack When I surveyed singles about male manners on dates these days, everybody agreed that politeness seems to be passé. The strange thing is that no one talked about dating. "Everybody is less nice to each other," said Johanna. "They're discourteous and rude in shops and on the roads. It's an angry world."

Mike says he doesn't see people opening doors or giving up their seat on a bus. "I don't think a lot of men respect women today."

Queue jumping, yelling at drivers, swearing in public. It's not just on dates that people are failing to demonstrate their better natures. No one misses the formality of a rigid code of conduct. Everyone laments the pervasive lack of courtesy and common consideration.

For every Gallant who opens a door for a woman, ten oblivious souls let it swing shut in her face. How many people failed to RSVP to your most recent invitation? When was the last time you wrote a thank you note?

This sad lack of manners in everyday life presents an opportunity for men. It's the opposite of a rising tide raising all boats. A falling level of civility leaves chivalrous exceptions prominently on display. The courteous gentleman is a match any lady would love to catch.

Manners for Misters
No one wants to be treated with anything less than thoughtfulness. The guy who exerts himself to consider what would please his date and then strives to deliver is sure to make a favourable impression. Here are a few tips to convince your date that she's found her Prince Charming.

1. Show respect
This is the universal rule of the polite. All other tips are just permutations of this one.

2. Listen
Pay attention to what she says, and take it to heart. When she says she's allergic to dust mites, vacuum before she comes to your place for drinks. If she says she likes Italian food, rent <i>Big Nighton DVD and invite her over for pasta.

3. Be on time
Making her wait implies that her time is less valuable than yours is.

4. Be generous
I'm not talking money here. Give freely of your praise.

5. Be reliable
A gentleman's word is his bond. If you say you're going to call, call.

The "F" word
Finally, a word on feminism. Some guys believe that a woman would be insulted if he held a chair for her. I have yet to discover a female who wouldn't be charmed by such attentiveness.
When in doubt, ask. Inquiring, "May I get that door for you?" or, "How about I pay this check and you take the next one?" can head off a world of misunderstanding.

Judging by the subject matter of all these new threads you've been posting would it be safe to assume that you're once again on the hunt for some c0ck?

Storm wrote: Some guys believe that a woman would be insulted if he held a chair for her. I have yet to discover a female who wouldn't be charmed by such attentiveness.
When in doubt, ask. Inquiring, "May I get that door for you?" or, "How about I pay this check and you take the next one?" can head off a world of misunderstanding.

Sometimes us men are hindered from showing too much courtesy in fear of being misread.
What to some can appear as manors and etiquette can appear as an indication of someone with old fashioned attitudes to women.
Plus women like to be made feel as if they are treat special by there partner and someone over polite,friendly and approachable to others can sort of cloud the sense of feeling that they are being view as special.
Sometimes we can not win!

restless_native » 06 Jun 2010, 14:04
Judging by the subject matter of all these new threads you've been posting would it be safe to assume that you're once again on the hunt for some c0ck?

What you mean once again?.. I am always looking for c0ck, It's a favorite past time of mine

Storm wrote:What you mean once again?.. I am always looking for c0ck, It's a favorite past time of mine

Sorry.

I forgot who I was dealing with for a moment there.

Apology accepted.. now go pull some one Else's pigtails

Storm wrote:Apology accepted.. now go pull some one Else's pigtails

That's not the correct way to do it stupid.

^^^^^^^^

I agree with Storm's opening post. It is disgusting that manners and common courtesy/decency has taken a back seat in dating.
The excuses for the lack of it are inexcusable and I don't accept them...and never have accepted bad behaviour.

The biggest "reason" for this has been equality.
BS.

Equality and courtship rituals and behaviours don't belong in the same heap.
Equality is for equal laws, education, equal opportunity for jobs/pay and equal opportunities in politics.

Dating, love, courtship rituals don't belong.

E.G. Take a male stray/alley cat and a female stray/alley cat. Equal opportunities on the street. Whoever gets the fishhead first. Whover is the fiercest.
But....when it comes to copulating time. She is the one with the slutty behaviour..."c'mon, boys..purrrrrrr......over here" as she rolls around looking seductive.
The Boys? Growling and snarling at each other...and trying to get near her. She won't let any of the boys partake until it's the one she wants. If it's a lesser male...she snarls and spits at him...and swings those nasty claws.
Do they act the same?
Do any of the males...and females of the same species act the same in courting? Nope.

Why does the "equality" orientated PC crowd seem to think that we should? They call it "modern" thinking as an excuse.
All it's ended up to be is rudeness, crudeness and lack of respect....and then fvcking like bonobo monkeys. Strangers passing in the night.
Relationships? What are they? Check a museum.

I wouldn't want to be single again...ever.

Equality and courtship rituals and behaviours don't belong in the same heap.
Equality is for equal laws, education, equal opportunity for jobs/pay and equal opportunities in politics.

Dating, love, courtship rituals don't belong.

So, you'd keep the obedience bit in the marriage vows then?