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Whom one attracts....

Postby zangie » 13 Jun 2010, 15:53

I didn't do a thread search..this could possibly be redundant...giggle.

Lately, though it's happened in the past, I seem to be attracting a lot of seriously sub/crossdressing/cockcolding types...which..to each their own..

However, I keep rereading my profiles and looking at my pics and wondering if there is something there that makes them think I am the dominant type...which for anyone who knows me is so far in left field it's funny..

Do you think they are just playing the odds thing, or could I be giving that impression somehow?

And yes, I'm prepared for the smart a** answers..

It's Sunday, and my mind turns to idle thoughts...
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Re: Whom one attracts....

Postby cyst & deceased » 13 Jun 2010, 16:07

Someone's been on POOF again.



Z- I feel your pain. There are good guys in Ohio. Stay away from that freakshow dating site.
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Re: Whom one attracts....

Postby Storm » 13 Jun 2010, 17:00

Well it just so happens I made a fake profile ages ago on POOF.. one of a Mistress looking for her slave.. I got the idea from a friend who said she would do this to seek out the genuine guys to the freaky sex deviants.. :?
Anyhow, after 5 minutes of creating this profile I had 128 messages come through.. from the hilarious to the scary!.. To actually some really nice guys that just had a 'thing for being a slave'
What surprised me was this guy I had been talking to for a while..Who was looking for long term, had a couple of kids (Single dad) ..He messaged my alter ego profile.. Saying.. 'I would love nothing more then you to feck two black guys while I am forced to watch..and me to clean you up after.. and for you to wânk me off with sandpaper.. :shock: ..


I deleted that account pretty swiftly.. And decided never to date from POOF again.. I would say at the time.. there was about 90% of guys on there that had contacted me looking for a loving relationship..contacted the IE one looking for cringe worthy sexual activities...

The one I set myself up for was a funny story that happened to me.. I posted it on Face Book.. I should of thought of a better title!!..

BOOT FETISH
I arrived at my sisters in Ireland and was excited!.. You see she had promised me these 'out of the world pair of boots!'

Every girls dream!.. who has not got a shoe/boot fetish?..

I could barely contain my excited when she went to the cupboard to fetch them..
"there you go!" she said " do you think you have enough room in your case to take them back to England?"

I thought to myself, ' I don't care if I have to leave everything behind!, I am having these boots!'
I tried them on naturally. They are black leather, with a 4 inch heel, a silver buckle on the heel, a zip up the side, and a silver strap buckle at the top!. very kinky boots!...
I put them on and suddenly I had lost 2 stone, made my legs look like Twiggy! and it gave me that height confidence I always wanted.

" Oh wow, sis, you really don't mind me having these?" knowing full well if she changed her mind it would of turned out to be a very messy affair of two sisters on the floor pulling each others hair out!..Lucky enough she was pleased for to have them.

The day I was leaving I packed my suitcase and forced these boots inside, I had to put them in my hand luggage and just prayed I was not going to be stopped at customs..

I got to the airport and headed straight for the boarding gates.. I went through OK..my bag went off like I had the WOMD concealed in there!..
So I had two custom officers going through my bag. Pulling out items and now and again muttering to one another 'hm ok'.. then they pulled the boots out..
Now I don't know if it was the lighting or whatever, but these boots did look a little, kinda, well 'fetish'... I don't think the Dublin custom officer was expecting them!.. the look on his face was class! the look on my face was one of dismay!..
After what seemed like an age, I was let through..
I cursed my sister all the way home..She called later that night to see if I got back alright..
"Hi sis, did you have a safe journey?, and did you get that perfume through customs?'
" yes got the perfume through" was not going to tell her about the now called 'fetish boots'...

So a week later I decided to visit friends down in my home town... I looked in my wardrobe to find something to wear.. 'oh that top, and that skirt, oh and of course those boots!'
I stood there looking in the mirror and apart from looking like a hooker! They was crippling my feet!.. I threw them off my feet into the corner of my room.. 'WTF? who would make something like that?'...

So now my boots are sitting on my shoe rack waiting for a suitable moment to wear them...I am thinking bedroom boots for who ever has a boot fetish



I now have chinese transvestite guys contacting me, wanting to know what my feet look like? :?
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Re: Whom one attracts....

Postby Stress Free » 13 Jun 2010, 17:09

zangie wrote:I didn't do a thread search..this could possibly be redundant...giggle.

Lately, though it's happened in the past, I seem to be attracting a lot of seriously sub/crossdressing/cockcolding types...which..to each their own..

However, I keep rereading my profiles and looking at my pics and wondering if there is something there that makes them think I am the dominant type...which for anyone who knows me is so far in left field it's funny..

Do you think they are just playing the odds thing, or could I be giving that impression somehow?

And yes, I'm prepared for the smart a** answers..

It's Sunday, and my mind turns to idle thoughts...


The thing is that you are the only person in control of your pictures,your profile and those who you choose to respond too,as well as when to stop responding too them.
I find that most interaction in a dating site is pretty much like a game for most until they get the info they require.
The vast majority of those who are not contacting you due to your forum posts are not about to waste there time so they will very soon get to the core of what they are looking for.
You may be just a polite responder so they have cut to the chase quickly?
The site is full of people with there own specialized needs so I would guess that you have only attracted your quota of that type?
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Re: Whom one attracts....

Postby ItsMargo » 13 Jun 2010, 22:34

I have attracted a fair number of submissive men over the years and my standard line is..
"Sorry, won't work, I am confident not dominant"

They very quickly go away.
Waiting for the other shoe to drop.
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Re: Whom one attracts....

Postby savona » 14 Jun 2010, 00:59

zangie wrote:And yes, I'm prepared for the smart a** answers..

It's Sunday, and my mind turns to idle thoughts...


Hahaha not much in the way of bashing on here so you can post without wearing a crash helmet.

Don't know why you are having idle thoughts when you have this great date tomorrow night ... don't be thinking about cross dressers just before a date. You will be looking for something to be wrong when all is right.

POF men ... or any on line men that you meet n greet with. Don't expect too much and it one is a gem then you have caught the one in a million.

We have all had insane mail and contact from people on line. Don't take it personally that you are doing something in your profile to draw the nut bars in ...
So you can say and meant it .... "its not me its you" hahaha

Have a great date tomorrow ...

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Re: Whom one attracts....

Postby swan » 14 Jun 2010, 17:28

I always get Doms. :D
Bollox.
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Re: Whom one attracts....

Postby *Manny* » 14 Jun 2010, 23:09

In all honesty, I have never paid much attention to whom I attract, or the types either, for that matter! I just live my life, moving forward with the things that are important to me and my family. I get along with just about anyone of either sex, and keep everything in perspective.
REALLY?? Get a Life!!
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Re: Whom one attracts....

Postby Stress Free » 14 Jun 2010, 23:33

*Manny* wrote:In all honesty, I have never paid much attention to whom I attract, or the types either, for that matter! I just live my life, moving forward with the things that are important to me and my family. I get along with just about anyone of either sex, and keep everything in perspective.


I did find in pof that the type I attracted changed a lot depending on my profile content and the pics that I used.
I went from at first having the deluded notion that I would find the one back in my green behind the ears early days and a very serious profile,to a one of utter none sense,but I thought was funny.
The serious profile attracted the piss takers and those wanting to laugh at me in one way or another and the slapstick profile had the very serious women contacting me and all that I could do was laugh at them because I knew that i was one stage further than they were in pof's shelf life!

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Re: Whom one attracts....

Postby apple » 20 Jun 2010, 17:44

I seem to attract a great group of male friends than anything else.
They think Im kinda strange but they like that Im different.
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