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I dated a guy who is 3 months out of a 7 yr relationship.I knew his girlfriend (she looked like me) and he even pusued me when with his girlfriend.he liked me for years. and he cheated on her,she left.he was totally devastated drinking for months.Not cleaning his place.Thing is I am also 3 months out of a 7 yr relationship, also but see my ex still once a week.Now I have been dating my new guy and sparks have flew in bed also. He has tidied his home litterd with beer cans and seems happier again,lol we have kissed and cuddled,he was texting and calling me all the time,but sometimes our conversation was still awkward.last night I was with him and my ex called me,he seen my phone lighting up,I denied it.he seemed annoyed,and then brought out his phone and text another girl,said it is ok to see other people.he also kept checking out the window of his home, and seemed like a car went past and stopped,but he was begging me to stay the night, even brought for me food.I said no and went home. he said so you are leaving me after all I done for you then laughed like he was joking!!!Again as I got up to leave my phone beeped a message from my ex. then my new guy started texting me about how sexy I was till 2am, how he wished i had stayed,how he wants me to call down anytime i want to keep him company. he has done this before after ignoring me all night I would get a drunken voicemail and call 1am.I think he was probably drinking last night also.but today he was distant only replying to my texts bluntly, and never even text me once this eveing..I am worried as I like him and am wanting to be pursued by him again. I can't understand the change in him help???

3 months is often too soon for you both to have got your heads round your old relationships. Rebound relationships are often full of mixed messages and game playing because people haven't moved on and are still playing from the same misguided rules that broke the original relationship. Your best bet is to be on your own for a while and sort yourself out before trying for another relationship and judging by his immature behaviour I'd say the same for him. Take some time to find yourself before you look to find anyone else.

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Ditto....on the above.

Run ..do not walk...away from this situation.
Too nutso for me to even contemplate.
Two adults who care for each other should be able to talk this out without the mind games.

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Sorry helen for going off topic

Helen, just don't go there. Give him some space and time.

I'm FWB with a guy who is only about 6 weeks out of a 6 year relationship, and he is still in love with her. He knows she's not coming back, but can't seem to move on. I get drunken texts and phonecalls, and one night he got so upset I actually left my bed and walked over to his to calm him down.

Not worth it.

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Helen xx wrote:I dated a guy who is 3 months out of a 7 yr relationship.I knew his girlfriend (she looked like me) and he even pusued me when with his girlfriend.he liked me for years. and he cheated on her,she left.he was totally devastated drinking for months.Not cleaning his place.Thing is I am also 3 months out of a 7 yr relationship, also but see my ex still once a week.Now I have been dating my new guy and sparks have flew in bed also. He has tidied his home litterd with beer cans and seems happier again,lol we have kissed and cuddled,he was texting and calling me all the time,but sometimes our conversation was still awkward.last night I was with him and my ex called me,he seen my phone lighting up,I denied it.he seemed annoyed,and then brought out his phone and text another girl,said it is ok to see other people.he also kept checking out the window of his home, and seemed like a car went past and stopped,but he was begging me to stay the night, even brought for me food.I said no and went home. he said so you are leaving me after all I done for you then laughed like he was joking!!!Again as I got up to leave my phone beeped a message from my ex. then my new guy started texting me about how sexy I was till 2am, how he wished i had stayed,how he wants me to call down anytime i want to keep him company. he has done this before after ignoring me all night I would get a drunken voicemail and call 1am.I think he was probably drinking last night also.but today he was distant only replying to my texts bluntly, and never even text me once this eveing..I am worried as I like him and am wanting to be pursued by him again. I can't understand the change in him help???

so you were banging the new guy and youe ex both? Recipe for disaster. 3 months is a little soon for all involved I think.

where did you go wrong?? you're getting your muffin buttered by some other dude while thinking about your ex? you didnt think it was a big problem, but then again you know that.