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Last night a group of us met for dinner & drinks. One of the guys brought a new female he has been dating. I think this was their third date. While she was away from the table, he said he didn't know her age and was going to ask when she returned.

Several said not to, because age can be a sensitive subject & should be asked in private. My guy said she looked to be our age group, between 45 & 50, so why bother to ask. Someone wondered when it became appropriate to ask a lady her age. The majority said don't do it.

He asked anyway. She chuckled & said she wasn't a 70 year old with a great tuck & roll job if that is what he was worried about. Pretty funny come back. He kept asking & insisting on knowing her exact age, he even wanted to see her ID. It could have gotten out of hand but we kept adding humor to it & making funny remarks, she handled it well.

After they left we all made bets on whether she would dump him or not. She did! She said she had no desire to date someone that would ask such a personal question in front of a group of strangers. She said she was 47 & had no problem saying so but she wondered when it became acceptable to ask a lady her age. He was shocked!

In reality is knowing someones exact age all that important? Isn't just knowing their approximate age good enough? A few years here or there can't make that much of a difference or can it?

We live in a time where we are bombarded with looking youthful. Just about every advertisement has to do with ways to look more younger, act younger, dress younger, eat this or that to be younger, drink this or that, use this product, use that product & on & on. We are obsessed with being young.

Age can be a very touchy subject, we saw that in the udder forums. It was a huge deal, with numerous threads about people lying when it comes to their age or dumping someone because the person wasn't truthful by just a few years. I really don't think people that fudge a few years on their age are just big liars. It's more like it is almost embarrassing to be a certain age & to have to admit it.

Is knowing someones exact age all that important, especially if you meet them IRL where you can pretty well determine how old a person is just by looking? Does it bother you if someone asks how old you are?

I think the problem for women when being asked their age is the idea that the person asking seems to think it's that important..it's natural to wonder why anybody would want to bracket you and to think that the asker wants to know just so they can judge you.

I have to admit that I happily state my age without being prompted to because I quite like it when people are shocked by the revelation, especially much younger people who appear to expect anybody between 15 and 20 years older than them should look ancient.

People my own age, know my age from looking at me I figure.

Fingerless Glove wrote:I think the problem for women when being asked their age is the idea that the person asking seems to think it's that important..it's natural to wonder why anybody would want to bracket you and to think that the asker wants to know just so they can judge you.

I have to admit that I happily state my age without being prompted to because I quite like it when people are shocked by the revelation, especially much younger people who appear to expect anybody between 15 and 20 years older than them should look ancient.

People my own age, know my age from looking at me I figure.

I would guess that it is related to your abilities with child bearing or there own attitude towards age?

Well that makes it even worse..who do men think they are viewing women as baby making machines for them?

There ya go again,,,men checking out the women that are still young enough to have babies.

dotcom wrote:
Is knowing someones exact age all that important, especially if you meet them IRL where you can pretty well determine how old a person is just by looking? Does it bother you if someone asks how old you are?

I have no problem stating my age, 55, glad to have gotten here, plenty of others didn't. I don't need to know the exact age of a date, I'm looking for someone of my generation, usually around 5 years either way, 10 if they're the hippest thing walking down the street.

I can tell over lunch if we're in the same world, don't need an exact year (or a birth sign, lol).

dotcom wrote:There ya go again,,,men checking out the women that are still young enough to have babies.

Read my post again rather than ignoring it all.

But it is so much more fun picking out one part & bashing you for it.

Down with men!!!

Grrrrrr at all of them...yeuchhy yeuchsters the lot of them!

He asked anyway. She chuckled & said she wasn't a 70 year old with a great tuck & roll job if that is what he was worried about. Pretty funny come back. He kept asking & insisting on knowing her exact age, he even wanted to see her ID.

Maybe it was a ruse and he'd forgotten her name, like on the "Mulva" episode of Seinfeld. If not, asking for ID is stupid. Asking someone's age isn't.

She wondered when it became acceptable to ask a lady her age. He was shocked!

It depends on the person being asked. I understand some extreme seniors still hanging on the "lady's age" coyness, because of their upbringing, but it seems ridiculous in anyone who was born in the '50s or later.

In reality is knowing someones exact age all that important? Isn't just knowing their approximate age good enough? A few years here or there can't make that much of a difference or can it?

Exact age doesn't matter to me, personally. But that's a different topic than the propriety of asking someone's age. It doesn't seem like a particularly "personal" question to me. It's just an ordinary, innocuous question.