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I need help dealing with this new passive/ aggressive stage. I know she's testing her independence, but I'm getting dangerously close to a smack upside the head. Where's the drinking icon?

Fun, isn't it? That you're the safe one they bash against on their way to adulthood.

If you need a bit of peace try laughing at them.

That's usually enough to make them storm off into their room in a huff for an hour or so.

The best revenge on our teens is to eventually become grandparents.

I used to hum. My kids would say something nasty & obnoxious & I'd ignore them & start humming. They'd shout, "did you hear what I said" & I'd say "Oh I'm sorry honey were you talking to me?" It made them crazy. No audience....no show!

How horrible. I've always respected my kids too much to treat them that way.

If she has got you to the stage where you seriously fear she may strike out at you then she has crossed the line already.It shows no respect for you as a person.You need to be the rolemodel,set limits rules and consequences and follow them through each and every time.

Spoon wrote:If she has got you to the stage where you seriously fear she may strike out at you then she has crossed the line already.It shows no respect for you as a person.You need to be the rolemodel,set limits rules and consequences and follow them through each and every time.

I so agree..I have perfectly behaved teenagers who are absolute angels due to my marvellous influence and well executed parenting skills.

It's just a bloody pity they don't behave so well at home as they do everywhere else they go - maybe it's a good thing I'm there for them to unleash their frustrations on when they are in that mood so the rest of the world is safe.

Ah well..they're a credit to me as far as other people are concerned and that's all that matters in the end...

When does all that crap stop?

It's so emotionally draining and exhausting being blamed on every single thing that doesn't go right for them - I can't wait till my kids are all over 25.

Fingerless Glove wrote:

Spoon wrote:If she has got you to the stage where you seriously fear she may strike out at you then she has crossed the line already.It shows no respect for you as a person.You need to be the rolemodel,set limits rules and consequences and follow them through each and every time.

I so agree..I have perfectly behaved teenagers who are absolute angels due to my marvellous influence and well executed parenting skills.

It's just a bloody pity they don't behave so well at home as they do everywhere else they go - maybe it's a good thing I'm there for them to unleash their frustrations on when they are in that mood so the rest of the world is safe.

Ah well..they're a credit to me as far as other people are concerned and that's all that matters in the end...

When does all that crap stop?

It's so emotionally draining and exhausting being blamed on every single thing that doesn't go right for them - I can't wait till my kids are all over 25.

I totally understand your sentiments.
I am having to be referee and/or mediate so often these days from a position that is impossible due to lack of me actually witnessing events!