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WHY IS IT.
I'm not looking for a new father figure my daughter has the love from me that she need's now where is the love for myself.
I need love as well
Is it just a choice the life of single motherhood.
Be happy with your child and noone else
is that what I Chose if it is i am fine i can deal with it
Im just soo confussed
and I may be younge I dont need to hear a younge person's speach I have gone threw 3 years infantry officer so I need not have any younge girl speaches

I am a single father

I have heard of people saying it's impossible to get a date as a single father, and now I am having the fun of going through it myself. I wanted to find out if anybody has tips on places to go or anything you can do. Right now I'm at the point of maybe it would better to have friends then nothing at all. It seems a lot more difficult for the father then the mother. After my x and I broke up, she found a boy friend a few months after. That was about 2 yrs ago. I've had a couple of dates but unfortunatley thats all it ended up being. The father image in this age group isn't what they're looking for.
And no I'm not going for pitty, I'm asking for help or hints.

You can have a single life and be a mother at the same time..Just keep them separate..Go and get yourself a social life, pick up a hobby. This way you will find a social circle of new friends..
You do not need to have a full time relationship or a live in lover..

Keep your family life separate from your love life..
This way your daughter will feel she is getting the attention she deserves without the complication of a new face that may or may not be in her life for long.. And your lover will not feel pressured in thinking he needs to play 'daddy'..
It will either work or it don't either way, your daughter will have a stable happy confident mum.. instead of a mum who is tired all the time and down about her life... You need 'Me' time, we all do..You can not be just 'Mummy' 24/7 it would be mentally and physically draining ..

There are parenting networking sites such as Single With Kids that you can meet other parents for social gatherings and support and you'll find with these that they usually come with a dating site attached. There are also dating sites for single parents which would mean you are more likely to find someone in a similar situation to you.

I hear that a lot: Single parents saying that they're not looking for a parent for their children. I believe it in most cases, however the reality is that he/she will become a parent (legal guardian) of the child(ren) if the relationship goes long term and you live together and/or get married. Therefore, you may not be looking for someone to become a parent, but they become one in a long term relationship.

Teenwolf wrote:I hear that a lot: Single parents saying that they're not looking for a parent for their children. I believe it in most cases, however the reality is that he/she will become a parent (legal guardian) of the child(ren) if the relationship goes long term and you live together and/or get married. Therefore, you may not be looking for someone to become a parent, but they become one in a long term relationship.

legal guardian...? i dont think so... to my knowledge a partner will never automatically have a legal parental obligation towards their partners offspring whether they marry or not....

SallyAnne wrote:WHY IS IT.
I'm not looking for a new father figure my daughter has the love from me that she need's now where is the love for myself.
I need love as well
Is it just a choice the life of single motherhood.
Be happy with your child and noone else
is that what I Chose if it is i am fine i can deal with it
Im just soo confussed
and I may be younge I dont need to hear a younge person's speach I have gone threw 3 years infantry officer so I need not have any younge girl speaches

A hard post to understand, it rambles.

Simplilest solution is to not mix your dating & family life. It may lessen the time you have available to date, but causes not issues with kids and such.

legal guardian...? i dont think so... to my knowledge a partner will never automatically have a legal parental obligation towards their partners offspring whether they marry or not....

Not true in Canada. A "provider" can be held accountable for child support payments for a child that is not his or hers. And I personally know people who are in this situation. This applies to both marriage and common law.

Different rules in different countries then.

swan wrote:Different rules in different countries then.

Yeah, unfortunately Canada is a little fvked up when it comes to this stuff.