Pics or no pics?

[restless_native]

...but you see most good looking men dont post pics from myu internet dating experiences.

True. That's why I don't have a pic on here.

I was sick of being pestered.

[Indigo]

My sweetie didn't post a pic until long, long after we were an item. Our first date was truly a blind date as he refused to send me a pic before hand. bugger. Consistent, that one is.
I told him it would serve him right if, when I clapped eyes on him, I took one look and barfed on his shoes. Apparently he felt that was an acceptable risk.

I think you are blessed to have found him then. My friend joined a dating agency Parship who matched people using sophisticated psychometric testing and base matches solely based on personality. She got on like a house on fire with all 3 matches but unfortunately there was no physical attraction with any of them.

I once had a profile wihtout a pic and the types of messages I got were very different to the ones I get with a pic. I think a pic helps connect you with someone because a pic says way more than just what they look like.

Yes.... I'm beginning to think though that the messages I'd get without my pic can't possibly get any worse than they already are. I do think that having a pic, even on the forums, can be be a barrier to overcome for some people, especially if you remind them of their ex or something and they project all their crap on to you! But I guess it's not my problem.

I only put it up to give the women there, something to 'fud' themselves to

Jo, I think you put it up to show your frivolous side but the finger to your mouth suggests a deep thinker too. As for something for women to 'fud' themselves too? Nah...... the one of you in the suit's better for that.

Some sexual energy starts without pics.
Then they add to it

Oh yes... you can have a fantastic connection with someone based on the power of words.... then they either add to it or break it

Since when was kinky convo a waste of time?

well it is kind of hard if you've got a ball gag in your gob... other than that I agree.

I suppose to some extent we all judge, regardless of whether you have a picture up or not.
thanks for your replies.

Just of out interest which of these sentences fits with how you see things?

1. It's not what you say but it's the way that you say it which really counts

2. It's not the way that you say but it's what you say which really counts

[ItsMargo]

What was his reasoning for not showing you a pic Margo?

He didn't have one on his profile as he said he didn't want to embarrass his teens. He claimed he didn't have one to email me. O-kay.
I didn't push it much beyond that, figuring good, bad or indifferent, he had his reasons and was entitled to his reasons whatever they were.
(Well, I did suggest he must be a toad to be so coy about his pic, but he just agreed with me. No satisfaction trying to manipulate that one. Well, directly anyway.)

We had such crackling conversations that I HAD to meet him. Compelled, really. And it was kinda fun that I had zero idea of what he looked like beyond 5'8" and bald with blue eyes.
I figured if he was a toad and I did barf on his shoes we'd still have a great night, cuz the conversation, from depth to banter, was simply awesome. Probably would have been better if I had barfed on his shoes cuz I haven't lived down my initial reaction yet.